“We know enough to know that all of this is not quite right. And we know enough to know that settling for what’s not quite right is quite wrong.” – Craig D. Lounsbrough
“I want my Cinderella moment, and I want it now. I want my Prince Charming to come for me and sweep me off of my feet. I want a never-ending romance you see in fairy tales! It’s on the horizon, I can see it already. I will have this because I deserve this!”—This is what most of us think but rarely get.
Often women get tired of looking for that special one. After some time, they have a feeling they are going on a wild goose chase and they will never find their perfect guy.
That is when they start to settle for less than they deserve. They enter a relationship that is just wrong for them on so many different levels, but they do it anyway.
These women think their ship has sailed, so they grab whatever is in their reach.
On the other hand, maybe we have to go through this ‘settling phase’, only to remind ourselves that we deserve more.
Check out some of the signs that may tell you if you are really settling in your relationship or not.
1. WE’RE NOT THE WORST
You start comforting yourself that your relationship is not the worst you’ve seen or heard of.
You know that you are unhappy and you know you don’t deserve that, but you continue being in that pointless relationship which is guaranteed to fall apart sooner or later.
2. THE SMALLEST THINGS GET ON YOUR NERVES
All of us have quirks and bad habits which are totally fine. But, when you are in a bad and unhappy relationship in which you are starting to resent your partner for doing these things, then it is a deal-breaker.
You would be better off to let your relationship go down in flames because you are settling and you deserve more than that.
3. YOU ARE INDIFFERENT
You know the feeling that gives you butterflies in your stomach when you are about to see your partner? Well, you don’t have that. You experience something quite opposite.
You couldn’t care less about seeing him or not. That is a huge elephant in the room you should pay attention to.
4. YOU THINK YOUR PARTNER WILL CHANGE
If your partner didn’t change up until now, what makes you think he will change in the future?
He is fine. He’s not settling like you are.
He is happy because he has hit the jackpot!
You are the one who is unhappy and you keep convincing yourself things are going to be different, better.
I hate to break it to you, but they aren’t.
5. YOU ARE WITH HIM OUT OF GUILT
This is a huuuuge red flag! So, let’s sum things up.
You know that you’re unhappy. You know that you deserve better than what you have. You know you are settling for less than you deserve.
BUT, you are afraid you will hurt him if you leave him? If you want to spend the rest of your life in an unhappy relationship, be my guest.
If it has finally hit you, life is only but one you’ve got to live. So, get back to the drawing board and find someone who deserves you.
6. THE S*X IS GREAT
He rocks your world in the bedroom, but in every other department, you are singing the blues.
You have to understand s*x is not the most important thing in the world. There is someone out there who has the whole package, with your name on it, waiting to be opened.
Take a peek in what’s in there and don’t be afraid to try it!